GOING 'OUTSIDE' OF YOUR DATING AGENCY.

Professional matchmakers - dating tips on the first phone call.

Having been online dating and exchanging e-mails for a while, you now exchanged phone numbers and you had some hints as to when it is the best time to phone. So it's obviously up to you now.

Feeling a bit apprehensive, but ready, you quickly revise in your head what you already know about this person from your online dating e-mails, and what you still want to find.

Appropriately armed with your dating agency information and any dating tips you were given, you get through to the number and your very first and perhaps very significant call is under way.

First of all, obviously, you need to establish your identities, so say who you want to speak to. When you get a positive answer say who you are , i.e. something like -- this is ' now give either your first name or nickname' from 'give the name of you dating agency'.

If everything checks out, from now on you are flying on your own. Your professional matchmakers cannot help you any more. Just hope that they did a jolly good job on you two, and that you will have an enjoyable and interesting time on the phone.

The most important thing of course is being yourself, relax as much as possible and then say a little bit about yourself, and you need to ask about the other person, showing a genuine interest. Do not get so tensed that you become tongue tied, that will not help, it should not happen anyway as the professional matchmakers match people who are as compatible as possible. However should it happen, just relax and your usual self confidence will guide you. Obviously different people will have different things to say.

You can talk about any topic you like, however avoid talking about your previous relationships or any medication you may be on. Try to choose light subjects to start with, and if possible, avoid any painful interview-like 'questions and answers' conversation, even if you do have your list of questions you based on online dating e-mails that you would like ask. If everything goes well you will have an opportunity to get the answers during later phone calls.

However you should take mental notes of any big discrepancies between what the person wrote to you in online dating e-mails and what you are told on the phone. But just take a mental note, do not question any of them. If there are too many discrepancies you will need to reflect on them later, perhaps seeking additional dating advice and decide whether they might be show stoppers or not.

The first phone call does not need to be long, unless you are really enjoying yourself so much that you could talk for hours. You may even arrange your first date. That would be really great. But to finish on a positive note, and to agree on your next phone call is cool too.

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